Sexuality & Gender Identity
Psychosynthesis Amsterdam is a place where you can be who you are. Where you can go for questions and problems regarding gender identity and / or sexual orientation.
According to research in the USA (Robert Epstein, 2015), 90% of people are ‘sexually fluid’, which means that sexual and gender identity is not something fixed. Perhaps it is precisely this ‘fluid’ character that makes a healthy development of identity, in the context of the norms, values and expectations of the society in which we grow up, so complicated. It makes a lot of difference in which country, in which culture and in which family with which norms and values you ended up ‘coming out of the closet’ without too many problems.
When you find out that you are ‘different’ you can run into many problems. For example, the confusion you have about your feelings and the difficulty you experience to admit it. Maybe you are dealing with discrimination or with parents who do not accept you. Or did you grow up just like me in a Religious family with standards and values that no longer fit who you are and what you want. In short … you have problems with being ‘different’.
It depends on where you are right now and where you stand to pay attention to:
- Living with a secret
- Coming out
- A healthy relationship with myself and with others
“Even before I knew I was homosexual, it became clear to me that I was being looked at strangely: I was softer, more sensitive than other guys, and that led to a lot of tension time and time again”
From the Foreword to ‘Fluwelen woede’ orignal title: ‘The Velvet Rage’ by Alan Downs by Nicolaas Veul, 2019
Working Therapeutically with Gender & Sexual Diversities
The abbreviations LGBTIQI stand for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer and Interested. The term Queer is used by people who prefer not to pigeonhole their sexual orientation. Someone who is queer would therefore prefer not to identify as lesbian, gay, straight or bisexual.
Gender refers to the traits, behaviors and role patterns that a society has determined for each gender.
As a homosexual therapist I was trained in Psychosynthesis. This is a movement within the various psychotherapies with a positive and holistic view of the human being that focuses on inclusion instead of exclusion. In the guidance you are invited to meet yourself and get to know yourself in the multicolored form that makes up your personality. Both the height and the depth.
Many clients struggling with their sexual identity or gender have had to hide many of their feelings and have come to survive instead of living. Much of their lives are often defined by guilt and shame. Survival also often means a double life in which the personality splits into a part that is visible and maintains contact with the outside world and a part that is invisible and withdraws and tries to avoid real contact.
In addition to Psychosynthesis, I was also trained as a therapist in the Identity-oriented Psychotrauma Theory and Therapy of Franz Ruppert. This systemic way of working is also called a method of self-encounter. In combination with Psychosynthesis, this is a powerfull way of guidance that is suitable for the help questions as mentioned above.
You are very welcome to make an appointment for an introductory meeting online or face to face. This is without obligation and without costs. Together we can look for a suitable offer for your request for help.